Part II of this post: http://www.solution-scope.com/blog/?p=682#more-682
Here are some more real examples that Dr. Ernst Bechinie (http://www.solutioncoaching.ch) put together that show when coaching can help:
People on a personal Cross-Road
Story 1: Lady-Teacher, 38 on a Cross-Road
I am now 10 years teaching at the Gymnasium. On one side I love this profession. I like to teach and work with parents. I meet a lot of interesting people. Presently I am also involved in general topics of organisation in the school. However there is another side. There is this feeling of narrowness and repetition. I feel of being in a dead end road. And I am afraid of a standstill, of not developing any more. During my training as teacher I had also studied journalism. For some time I had than worked in a PR-agency besides my studies. But I had decided of taking the route of security. This decision does not fit for me any more. It means that too much of my wishes are not fulfilled and many of my resources stay unused. At the same time I also hear these inner and outer voices: “You can’t do that – just leaving all this, that is impossible. The parents have paid the education an all that does not mean anything any more. You can’t leave your save position just to go into same vague and risky dream”. Momentarily I think I need time for reflection. I have to look at my strengths and options. I want to see what I really want for my next 10 years or so. And then I want to have a good look at my rather unsatisfactory relationship.
Story 2: Medical doctor – This kind of life would kill me
After school I did not have passion for anything. Somehow I got involved in medicine, so I studied medicine. Getting into University in my country is not easy, but I succeeded. Right in the beginning I felt that something is wrong in the field, maybe I misunderstood something I thought. So I worked hard to know better to treat people. I learned a lot of skills in medicine. The more I worked the more I got curious. And I became a skilled orthopaedic surgeon. However gradually I found a big difference between theory and practice. I got alienated with the colleagues. One day a major point happened for me: I had a patient with severe back pain. This is often a difficult issue. You cannot see anything on the X-rays. So I could not do any operation. He asked me if I could do bone setting. So I sent him to see the bone setter and after that he was totally healed. He came back and told me that he was completely O.K. That was a shock for me because they haven´t talked anything about the issue in University. I started to study the methods of the bone setters and understood what they were doing. I became very skilled there. After a while I talked to the professor in the University hospital. He got mad at me. Also the other doctors got mad at me. They did not like to hear anything about it. They just wanted to operate, put people on the operating table. For them it was purely nonscientific nonsense.
At this moment I thought what should I do with this knowledge and experience I had learned. I want to use it. Also I increasingly find a big difference with the theoretical ideas of University and the daily reality of a patient. I can not go on as if nothing has happened. Privately I have a pretty difficult situation. My marriage does not work and I also have problems with my mother and brother. Professionally I wake up from a dream of conventional medicine. I know I can not go on with the old methods and go and play golf with colleagues and have diner with them payed by medical companies. This kind of life would kill me.
Story 3 – Am I not allowing myself to be happy?
In my job as secretary I changed my working hours from full time to part time. Well, I wanted to have more time for me, for my learning: Spending time with my hobby – painting and photography. Taking courses at the University. And also just having free time for myself. Than I started to feel guilty. Everybody is working full time. And I only work half time. People are working hard, people are suffering. I do little. I should do more. I felt that I have to justify what I do to all kind of people. Then I started to accept work for others, I just could not say No. Now I discover I don’t have time for anything. I don’t even accept dinner invitations anymore. I am shocked: Whatever I do, I feel guilty. And when I rest, I feel even guiltier. Am I not allowed to have a good time? Am I not allowing myself to be happy?
These are only some examples where coaching can be the right thing to do to improve your situation and/or reach your goals. If you want to find out more or have any questions if coaching might be right for you, please contact Dr. Ernst Bechinie directly – www.solutioncoaching.ch.
